Thank you for your interest in my favorite topic, me.
Here’s everything you need to know about me:
I can be stubborn and hardheaded and get too attached to being right. I have a fear of rejection, but more than anything, I’m afraid of being wrong.
I tend to avoid conflict and can sometimes be passive aggressive, at least that’s what some people tell me.
I often overestimate the speed at which I can get things done. I tend to not thoroughly prepare for things.
I have to schedule time to be spontaneous. I’m about a 60% introvert 40% extrovert.
I work from my bed in a reclined position. Three pillows is optimal for proper lumbar support and not hitting my head on the wall. I snack a lot on dates and cashews while working.
I don’t spend much time on social media, unless you count reddit, in which I’m an addict.
I’m not very musically or artistically gifted, as much as it bums me out. I’m also not that great with plants.
My room is generally a bit messy and my car is a disaster. I struggle to motivate myself to keep my personal areas as clean and organized as I would like them.
I’ve tried three times to adapt to the uberman polyphasic sleep schedule and failed every time.
I’m insanely ambitious and overly optimistic (see previous sentence). I’m sure of myself to the point of being slightly delusional (some disagree on the “slightly” part).
My friends sometimes shy away from complimenting me because they say they’re afraid of stroking my huge ego, but I swear it’s not nearly as big as they think it is.
I really don’t like about me pages that are full of self-aggrandizement and written in third person. So instead, I start by talking about my weaknesses.
Here’s what I’m doing. I’m showing I have a healthy mind because I can see myself clearly, faults and all. I am demonstrating that I can take responsibility for my emotions instead of blaming everyone and everything else for my problems. I am displaying confidence by owning my weaknesses and making fun of them. I’m showing how to connect with people by being vulnerable—not by pretending I’m some kind of god, because I’m obviously not.
Just because you become aware of your weaknesses doesn’t mean they magically go away, but you can actively work to insure they have as little downside as possible.
However, if you’re going to take advice from someone about how to live, you’ll probably want to know how they live so that you can see if you want to live like them. So please don’t see these next several paragraphs as bragging, but more so establishing that I walk the talk.
I have spent the majority of my adult life focusing on designing my life in a way that allows me to feel the most happiness and fulfillment.
I work on what I want, when I want. My work revolves around my life, not the other way around. If I feel like going up into the mountains for a friend’s birthday party, to a contact improv jam in Moab, on a spontaneous road trip to a music festival in Joshua Tree, to visit my parents for their birthdays, to drive to Steamboat to crash at a friend’s place to go snowboarding and then afterwards melt in the nearby hot springs, or to fly to Spain for the Internet Freedom Festival with a side trip to Germany, I do it.
I don’t have to commute to work, unless I feel like getting out of the house and riding my bike to a library or cafe. My work allows me to be around people who I like; I don’t have to work with people I don’t want to be around. I organize my day around what works best for me. I avoid working out in the gym when it’s crowded, I stay off the roads during rush hour. I almost exclusively ride my bike when bouncing around Boulder, unless I’m picking up more food than I can fit in my backpack or I’m going for my weekly massage at my friend’s house in the mountains.
I’m more of a morning person, but my social life leads me to having a bed time of 1-2am, sometimes later on the weekends, and I usually get up around 10-11am in the morning. I know that I work best in the mornings so I guard the beginning of my day carefully and generally don’t schedule anything until after 3pm at the earliest, but preferably after 5pm.
My morning ritual (when someone is not waking up next to me) is to wake up slow, read for a little, practice Portuguese, eat breakfast, write or work on my business, practice piano or the ukulele, then either read more or go to the gym, depending on the day of the week (though I don’t always get all of these habits in). If I don’t have other commitments minimizing my time at the gym, I lift weights, stretch, foam roll, then hit the sauna. Sometimes I’ll run errands or read more and push going to the gym back to 7 or 8pm.
I have a large social circle that is growing exponentially of amazing people who are doing cool and inspiring things with their lives like breathworkers, dance teachers, medics, tantra workers, musicians, herbalists, programmers, artists, therapists, body workers, cryptocurrency investors, cannabis growers (I live in Colorado), CBD makers, videographers, chefs, outdoor educators, raft guides, and permaculture activists, to name a few. My friends and I regularly throw gatherings of sober (or mostly sober) people full of dancing, cuddling, playing, potlucking, and music making. I enjoy a sensual but platonic friendship with many powerful women.
I’ve been mostly vegan for nine years. I say “mostly” because I sometimes eat pasture-raised, humane-certified organic eggs or eggs from my CSA. I will also on a rare occasion (as in, about once a year) eat meat if the sourcing is great, like the fish my grandpa caught or the deer that my friend hit with his car. I eat a ton of fresh produce and many salads with a whole head of lettuce.
Because I’ve been so lucky and lead a pretty damn good life, I want to help everyone else lead a better life, and hope that if I help them that they’ll want to help me out a little bit, too. 🙂